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As Christ-followers, we realize that our Most Important Thing is to obey the Great Commission that Jesus gave to His disciples and to us as well: for us to go make disciples of all nations. The biggest issue facing mankind is sin and the need of each of us to repent and turn to God, receive His forgiveness and allow Him to come into our life and change us from the inside. But, beyond that, what is the biggest crisis facing humanity on earth? Many will say it is international conflict, global climate change, racism, overpopulation or whatever. I think the actual answer will surprise you. Scientists are increasingly seeing that the biggest problem facing human beings on planet earth in the coming decades is infertility: having too few babies. Rather than overpopulation it’s actually underpopulation! Let me put it this way: it takes 2.1 babies born per female to have “Zero Population Growth.” One baby to replace the woman, one to replace the man, and .1 for those who can’t have children. This number is called the Total Fertility Rate (TFR). America’s TFR since 1975 has been below this number. It currently is at about 1.6, far fewer babies born to sustain our population in the long run. So deaths are already outnumbering births in parts of our culture. And this reality will only accelerate in the coming decades. A recent article by the American Enterprise Institute highlighted this reality. It’s entitled “Rapid Fertility Decline Is an Existential Crisis” and is written by Jesús Fernández-Villaverde, an economist specializing in demographics at the University of Pennsylvania. The article documents how, in just a few decades, we in the U.S. will face an economic crisis “measured in the quadrillions of dollars.” “Why is that?” you ask. Because the vast majority of nations in the world are having children well below the “replacement” level needed to simply break even. Things will tiptoe along for another about 30 years, and then major pain will begin. In parts of Asia—including China, South Korea and Japan—deaths are already outnumbering births. As a result, Japan’s GDP in recent years was growing much more slowly than that in the U.S. Their median age (with one-half of their population older, the other half younger) is very close to 50. In contrast, America’s median age is just under 40. (It has climbed from its value of 30 in 1980). The Wall Street Journal has had a number of articles in recent years highlighting the impending negative impact on our nation and our world due to lower birthrates. In one of these articles from May of 2024 entitled “Suddenly There Aren’t Enough Babies. The Whole World Is Alarmed,” it said this: “With no reversal in birthrates in sight, the attendant economic pressures are intensifying. Since the pandemic, labor shortages have become endemic throughout developed countries. That will only worsen in coming years as the post-crisis fall in birthrates yields an ever-shrinking inflow of young workers, placing more strain on healthcare and retirement systems.” But how do we reverse this trend away from low birthrates? Virtually all these articles agree that there is no known method that is able to turn this problem around. Nations have tried luring women financially and in other ways to have more children to no avail. Let’s face it: bearing and raising another child is a lot of work. So why not focus on my needs and my career and my enjoyment and let other women do the heavy lifting! Regrettably, we Christians have largely done the same thing. With few exceptions, Christian parents are having below replacement level numbers of children as well. It’s time for repentance! Jesus gave all to us so we can be forgiven and be adopted into God’s forever family. How can we do less than give Him our all? That includes us married couples being willing to have all the children He sovereignly desires us to have and then miraculously produces through us. Scary? Yes! But living wholeheartedly for God is our calling and our privilege! And ultimately our joy and crown! After Marcia and I had four lovely and wonderful daughters, I was quite sure that was enough! But then my dear wife Marcia prayed a very scary prayer, “God, that is enough kids, right? But if you want to have more children, change Randy’s mind.” Well, to put it bluntly, God did a number on me, until I felt pressured to say, “Ok, God. I’m willing to stop taking steps to prevent pregnancy. But I’m quite sure you understand we can’t handle nor afford any more kids around here. So, I’m quite sure that you, out of love, will close Marcia’s womb.” So, a few months later, Marcia got my attention and, with a smile, shared with me that she was pregnant again. Seeing my rather surprised look, she asked, “Aren’t you happy about that, Randy?” “Oh, sure,” I haltingly said, “I’m happy,” Actually, I was totally blown back by what I had just heard. But shame on me! Turns out, Marcia was pregnant with our dear son David. Then along came Suzie, John, Scott, Laurie, Daniel, Angela and Nathan! Each one uniquely crafted by our amazing God! Touching lives all around our nation for the glory of God! You can read more about this story and how God has amazingly met our financial and housing needs as well in this little booklet that you can download and read for free on our website. Non-Christians will not likely change their choices to have more kids. Frankly, it’s up to us Christ-followers to lead the way. Maybe when non-Christians see us rejoicing with our growing families, many of them will follow our example (and hopefully come to faith in Jesus too!). Bottom line, dear friends, make Jesus the Lord of your family size today. I promise that you will never regret it!
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“In fact, everyone who wants to live a godly life in Christ Jesus will be persecuted.” (2 Timothy 3:12)
Let me ask you this: how many of us Christ-followers in America today really believe this statement by Apostle Paul? “Everyone” means every one! Do you really want to live a godly life in Christ Jesus? Then the Bible makes it clear: you WILL be persecuted! Hmm! Jesus said a similar thing to His followers in John 15:18-20, “If the world hates you, keep in mind that it hated me first. If you belonged to the world, it would love you as its own. As it is, you do not belong to the world, but I have chosen you out of the world. That is why the world hates you. Remember what I told you: ‘A servant is not greater than his master.’ If they persecuted me, they will persecute you also. If they obeyed my teaching, they will obey yours also.” Since so few American Christians really believe these statements; since we feel that because we think we still live in a “Christian nation;” and so somehow we deserve to be treated nicely by our culture, could this explain why the church of America is shrinking? And could it also explain why the churches in nations where Christ followers are being persecuted—like China and Iran—are growing rapidly? If that is at least partially true, what is the solution to getting the American church on fire and growing again? Do we need to seek persecution? Probably not. But we do need to quit worshipping our comfort and choose daily to follow the exhortation of Scripture found in many places, including the following: “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. 20 But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. 21 For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also. (Matthew 6:19-21) “Then he said to them all: “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross daily and follow me. 24 For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will save it. 25 What good is it for someone to gain the whole world, and yet lose or forfeit their very self?” (Luke 9:23-25) “Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, love for the Father is not in them. 16 For everything in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—comes not from the Father but from the world. 17 The world and its desires pass away, but whoever does the will of God lives forever.” (I John 2:15-17) “Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. 2 Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. 3 For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God. 4 When Christ, who is your life, appears, then you also will appear with him in glory.” (Colossians 3:1-4) I was recently at a meeting of devoted Christ-followers who were discussing how, as one of the many ways we can love our neighbors as ourselves, we should be positively influencing public policy in our cities, states and nation.
The issue of abortion came up as perhaps one of the most important things that we should address. Clearly, the intentional killing of babies God is forming in the wombs of women is totally abhorrent to God, and should be to us as well. But when I was given an opportunity to speak to this group, the Lord led me to say something that actually startled me as well. “I know a way we can stop all abortions in America,” I said. After hearing these words, I sensed every person in the crowd leaning forward, eager to hear my next words. “All we need to do,” I continued, “is to ensure that every man and woman in America believes the truth that bearing and raising a child, while expensive and challenging at times, is one of the greatest privileges we have as humans. If you could do that, there could be an abortion clinic on every street corner, and abortion pills available for free, but no one would ever use them! If pressured to abort, they would respond by saying: ‘What? Kill this precious child and take away my joy of raising him or her for the glory of God? No way!!’” Consider this friends: in bearing and raising a child, we truly let God use our marital intimacy to create a boy or girl (or, sometimes, twins or triplets) who are created in God’s image with the potential of influencing our world during their lifetimes, and then living forever in His Eternal Kingdom! That is an incredible gift to us and to our loving, powerful Lord!! So, if this is true, why do people still have abortions? We “pro-lifers” naively assume people abort because they have a sincere desire to kill an unborn boy or girl. While that is the result of abortion, the motivation for a woman to “terminate her pregnancy” is actually due to the fact that she finds herself inconveniently pregnant with a child she and/or her partner do not wish to bear and raise. And, in our modern world, we expect that medical technology will guarantee for us an impenetrable wall between sex and pregnancy. So when an unexpected and undesired pregnancy results, we feel we are entitled to end it: we didn’t want to bear and raise a child, and, after all, we have a fundamental right to sex without pregnancy! But what do us “pro-life” Christians do? Let’s face it, we have bought the same lie that sex is something we deserve, but children should only be born if they are “planned” by us. Otherwise they might interfere with our careers and financial goals. So, for “self-protection,” we take deliberate steps to prevent our sex from producing that unwanted/unplanned child. Don’t you see what we are doing? We have the same motivation as those who abort: we too want our sex, but we choose to take steps to prevent pregnancy. So, we have the same motivation as those who abort, and we produce the same result: no little boy or girl is born! We just use a different means! Do you think God is impressed? Of course not! Jesus, who looks at the heart, said in the Sermon on the Mount that hatred is the moral equivalent of murder, and that lust is the driving force of adultery. Likewise, insisting on an impenetrable wall between sex and the creation of children and taking deliberate steps to make that happen is the moral equivalent of abortion. Friends, we followers of Christ who have absorbed the world’s thinking in this area need to repent! Isn’t Jesus the author of life, and isn’t He supposed to be Lord of EVERY area of our lives? Doesn’t that include the area of our family size? Let me suggest that a healthy married couple should be open to God for the children He wants to create in and through them. Biology and statistical chance do NOT determine what your child’s gender nor what their qualities will be. Carefully re-read Psalm 139, especially verses 13-16. Children are God’s creation and are made in His image. Getting pregnant is not automatic. Couples who long for a child know this deeply. What if you have limited resources? Living by faith means taking risks when God clearly leads, and then trusting Him to provide. There is no place for laziness, but neither is there place for cowardice. We must not live for ourselves and our own comfort and security. Real Christians get out of the boat and walk on the water when Jesus says, “Come.” In our experience, I recall many times when we faced financial pressures. I would pray something like this, “Lord, I know you love me and have promised to meet our needs according to your glorious riches in Christ Jesus. But I also know you really love children. Lord, look at the children you have given us and who belong to you. For their sake, please meet our financial needs!” God always, I mean always came through! What if there are health concerns? Obviously, you report to God in all of this, and you make your decision about additional children based on the information you have and how God specifically leads you. Contraception in these situations is not always evil. But don’t be too quick to forego being open for an additional child out of fear. When a couple physically cannot bear another child, they are still commanded in Scripture to meet one another’s needs sexually. (See I Corinthians 7:2-5) One of God’s purposes for sex is deep communication between husband and wife. Such is a barometer of a healthy marriage. While there is so much more to be said in this area, I hope this at least initiates a much-needed discussion among the Body of Christ, leading to massive repentance and life change. If you are like me, when I read some of the things that Jesus said while He was on earth, I am not always sure I totally get what He is trying to tell me. At times, I find myself asking Him, "Do you really mean what you are saying here?"
I came across one of those scripture passages in my quiet time recently. It was from Luke 14:26-27. The NIV puts it this way: “If anyone comes to me and does not hate father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters—yes, even their own life—such a person cannot be my disciple. And whoever does not carry their cross and follow me cannot be my disciple." My initial reaction in reading this is to push back: I mean, doesn't Jesus command us elsewhere to LOVE our neighbor and even love our enemies? And Paul tells us husbands to love our wives as Christ loved the Church and gave Himself up for her. But here, our Lord is telling us to HATE even our wives and other people? What gives? I think there is a good explanation that puts it all in proper context. To help see that, consider the New Living Translation's version of these verses: “If you want to be my disciple, you must, by comparison, hate everyone else—your father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters—yes, even your own life. Otherwise, you cannot be my disciple. And if you do not carry your own cross and follow me, you cannot be my disciple." (Luke 14:26-27 NLT) The Amplified Bible has a footnote to the word "hate" found in verse 26 where it says this: "[Hate is] an exaggerated figure of speech indicating a lesser degree of love, not actual hostility or aversion toward one’s earthly family." In other words, if we want to be true, wholehearted followers of our Lord, we need to hold nothing back in our love and devotion to Him. He must have ALL our time, ALL our talent, and ALL our treasure. And, if our close relatives object to our total surrender to our Lord, we must still choose to give our ALL to Him. Easy? Are you kidding me? Doing this is actually IMPOSSIBLE in our flesh! But this same Jesus, who in the Garden of Gethsemane gave all to His Father, can do it in and through us as well, as we trust and obey Him day by day. Are you in? Am I? I pray so. Because the last thing we want to do is to come to the "Pearly Gates" with a sense of regret for not having given Him our all. God bless and empower each of us to do that today! Most of us have read how China lost 850,000 people in their population in 2022. Why did this happen? Until recent years, Chinese authorities limited childbirth to “one child per family" policy. But, seeing where things were headed, Chinese leaders, in 2021, raised the limit to 3 children per family. And they are trying to make it financially easier for parents to have more children. But will it work? Probably not. Children are a lot of work and take a lot of money to raise. “Let someone else do the heavy lifting!” So that is China. What about America? Believe it or not, we parallel China’s bleak demographic issues. But we are not even talking about it here. We should be! Let’s start by comparing the median age of our respective populations. (Median age is the age where half of the population is younger, and the other half is older.) Notice the current similarity between China and the U.S.  Now for the real clincher. Here is a comparison of China’s Total Fertility Rate (TFR) with that of the US. TFR is the number of children the average female will give birth to in her lifetime. It takes a TFR of 2.1 on average just to break even, to have Zero Population Growth—1 to replace the woman, 1 to replace the man and .1 for those who cannot or will not reproduce.  Note that China went below 2.1 in 1990, while the US went below replacement level in 1970 (probably due to abortion being legalized in 1973.) So America has been below replacement level since that time, which explains the aging of our population.
Bottom line, while China is rightly concerned about the demographic winter coming their way, the United States with exactly the same problems, isn’t even talking about it. We should be! It’s very simple, really. All we need to do is to convince everyone of the truth! The truth is that bearing and raising a child, while expensive and time-consuming, is one of the greatest privileges God has given to us humans!
I mean, just imagine: we get to raise a unique person who is created by God—in His image!—for a number of years and are able to watch him or her develop into a full grown adult who, in turn, can be used by God to create even more wonderful children! And these children that God fashions in us not only are made in His image, but they have the potential to positively influence people, events and activities on earth with eternal consequences! They are “missionaries to the future,” touching others’ lives in ways, places and times we ourselves as parents can never go! Not only that, if these children of ours follow our example and invite Jesus to be the Savior and Lord of their lives, they will live in His eternal Kingdom with us forever and ever! What a huge privilege! So, back to my point: if you could snap your fingers and make every man and woman in America believe the truth of what I state above, you could have an abortion clinic on every corner of every city in our land and folks would never use them. Obviously, the reality is not even Christians believe the truth of what I say above. They see children as a pain and a burden too great to bear (no pun intended!) But sex, on the other hand, is something EVERY person needs to engage in! So we need birth limitation methods, including abortion to make sure we can have our sex without the hassle of children. And our Creator God is grieved . . . Although it was many years ago, I clearly remember that “aha moment” I had at the time. It was back during my 15 year tenure as a trial court judge. I was standing and talking with a small group of friends as we were waiting for the start of a prolife dinner we were attending. Seemingly, out of nowhere, an Asian OB/GYN doctor walked up to our little group and burst out with a question, “Do you know why we have legal abortion in America?” Before I could respond with my obvious answer: “Because of Roe v Wade,” the doctor answered his own question with a statement that seemed at the time to be crazy, “Because of artificial contraception!” With that, he walked off.
While at first I totally dismissed the doctor’s strange perspective, what he said simply would not leave my mind. Like a stick of dynamite within my skull, his words began to explode in a number of unexpected ways. And as I prayed about what he said, God began to show me there was much truth in his seemingly off-the-wall statement. Without describing each little step along the way, allow me to summarize where my thinking is now and how this truth has majorly impacted Marcia and me as a married couple. Let me begin by posing a question to you: why do women have abortions? Those of us who are prolife often naively assume that those who abort their unborn simply have a desire to kill. But, if we take a moment to think a bit more deeply about this question, we need to concede that the real reasons are far less cruel. In fact, according to the pro-abortion Guttmacher Institute, 86 percent of women who abort fall in one of six categories: (1) the pregnant woman doesn’t feel old/mature enough to raise this child; (2) she is not ready for another child; (3) she can’t afford a baby right now; (4) she has completed her child bearing; (5) she doesn’t want to be a single mother; or (6) the baby will interfere with her education or career. Now let me ask you this: what are the reasons Christian married couples choose to utilize artificial contraception? Aren’t their answers virtually identical to those given by the women who have abortions? Truth be told, like women who abort, while we oppose killing the unborn, we generally are sympathetic with their motivation to not bear a child. We think it’s totally acceptable to take deliberate steps to ensure that our sexual activity does not result in a child being born. So we agree with the motivation, and we agree with the results (no child). We simply disagree with the means that are used. Let me ask you this. What is God’s purpose for sex between a husband and his wife? More fundamentally, what is His purpose in marriage? Certainly both work to show the wonderful relationship between Jesus and His Bride (see Ephesians 5:22-33). But God also has a desire to have godly marriages produce children. “Didn’t the Lord make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his. And what does he want? Godly children from your union.” (Malachi 2:15 NLT) What happens when we humans begin to view sex as an end in itself rather than a means to other much more important ends? When we believe that every person is entitled to being sexually fulfilled as a fundamental human right. And that soon leads to the belief that it doesn’t really matter what form this sexual activity takes as long as it is “consensual” by all parties involved. Looking at scriptures like Romans 1, you see that this sort of living ultimately results in gender confusion and gross immorality. No wonder we have same-sex marriage and gender transitions growing in number in our day. But isn’t it fair to say that when we Christ-followers overwhelmingly endorse sex without the possibility of allowing God to use that activity to produce a child in His image we are following our secular culture’s perspectives? And that we are thereby inadvertently promoting a worship of sex more than a love of children that ultimately results in a pro-abortion, pro-immorality culture? But, you say, doesn’t God want us to be wise and prudent with our time and our financial and other resources? Isn’t it better to consider one’s bank balance and abilities and limit the number of children he/she has accordingly? Folks, isn’t Jesus to be Lord of EVERY area of life? Why do we think this area is ours to decide, not the One who makes children in the womb? (See how God is the one who knits us together in the womb: Psalm 139:13; Jeremiah 1:5 Job 31:15, and Galatians 1:15). Well, back to the comment the OB/GYN doctor made many years ago. After much thought and prayer, I concluded the doctor was right on. But then came the hard part! I needed to decide what the implications of that were going to be in my life. One of the hardest decisions I have ever had to make was, after my wife and I already had four lovely daughters (and we were very busy!), to choose to go “cold turkey” with any birth control devices and let God decide if we would have more children. Marcia was excited. I was fearful. Yet I am so glad we obeyed our Lord! So did we have more? You might say so! Eight more children later, we are the incredibly proud and happy parents of a dozen children! And each one is so very special and is touching lives for God in incredible ways! All glory to HIM! And, by the way, God did provide big enough houses, and vans and even dropped college tuition from on high! (He’s not running out of money soon!) There is so much more to say on this subject. We include much of it in our book, Sweeter by the Dozen: Making Jesus the Lord of Our Family Size.   Can you think of any other time in history--like we live in today--when the vast majority of people are convinced that their FEELINGS ALONE are the ultimate source of truth? That we simply CANNOT TRUST something outside of us to be true when our feelings run to the contrary?
Maybe that's why Jesus, at the conclusion of the Parable of the Persistent Widow in Luke 18 (designed to teach us to pray and not give up), left us with this haunting question: "However, when the Son of Man comes, will he find faith on the earth?” (Luke 18:8) You see, Christlike faith requires that I put much more confidence in what God says than in my feelings. Easy? No! But it IS something that all true Christ-followers must relentlessly choose to do. I love what the ministry Cru has taught for years about this reality. They use an illustration of a train where you put coal (FAITH) in the engine (the FACTS of God's Word), trusting that the caboose (FEELINGS) will eventually follow afterwards. [Under the picture on the Cru website it says, "The train will run with or without the caboose; however, it would be useless to attempt to pull the train by the caboose. In the same way, Christians do not depend on feelings. Place your faith in the trustworthiness of God and His Word. The more you learn of His Word, the more you will be able to answer any doubts with solid facts. Your feelings will begin to respond to the truth of God's Word and not your circumstances."] Friends, this is profound! And even though it TOTALLY goes against our culture today, it really works! The Bible puts it this way, "So faith comes from hearing, and hearing by the Word of Christ." (Romans 10:17) So many of our great heroes and heroines in scripture had to exercise this kind of faith when their emotions were obviously contrary. They chose to look away from their circumstances to a powerful, all-loving, all-knowing God. Think of the great examples of Abraham, Moses, David, Ruth, Esther, Mary the mother of our Lord, the Apostle Paul, etc. One of my good friends puts it this way: he asks, "How do you spell faith?" His reply? "R-I-S-K." When God calls, you choose to obey and get out of the boat. By His power and grace, you begin to do the impossible: you walk on water, looking to Jesus! Our world desperately needs brave men and women of God to have this kind of faith and obedience! We need to trust God's Word when it talks about things, like what constitutes Biblical marriage (only between a man and a woman), and what is sin. And the real existence of eternal punishment in hell for those who refuse to take God's free gift of salvation in Jesus Christ. And, obviously, much, much more. Many of these facts of Scripture do not FEEL good: we strongly want things to be more loving and less confrontational. But we understand that it is MOST LOVING in the long run to speak the truth in love than to sugarcoat the truth with lies that ultimately bring death and destruction. And after we choose to believe, live and speak the truth, God will come and empower us to keep moving forward as we focus the eyes of our faith on Him. God bless each of you in your walk of faith today. It isn't easy, but, as we look at what He did for us, how can we do less? Those of us alive in the 1960s and old enough to be aware of public issues at that time will recall that we were inundated with scare stories about the coming Population Explosion that was certain to destroy life as we know it within a few short years. One of the leading experts on the subject was Dr. Paul R. Ehrlich, author of the best-seller The Population Bomb. Published in 1968, Ehrlich begins in his Prologue by saying, “The battle to feed all of humanity is over. In the 1970s the world will undergo famines—hundreds of millions of people are going to starve to death in spite of any crash programs embarked upon now . . . The birth rate must be brought into balance with the death rate or mankind will breed itself into oblivion. We can no longer afford merely to treat the symptoms of the cancer of population growth; the cancer itself must be cut out. Population control is the only answer.” Yet, here we are, 50 years later, and realize the bomb was a dud. In fact, rather than over-population, our world in 2021 is struggling with UNDER-population! Just today, the Wall Street Journal head a major article entitled: “China Considers Lifting All Childbirth Restrictions by 2025.” The article’s subtitle reads, “Concerned about falling birthrates, policy makers plan further shift toward policies that explicitly encourage childbirth.” In the article you read how China’s aging population and lack of children to replace the aged is hurting their economy. In fact, due to encouraging “one child per couple” in the past, they now face what the article describes as “a historic downturn in its population.” So that is China. What about America? Believe it or not, we parallel China’s bleak demographic issues. But we are not even talking about it here. We should be. Let me show you how China and the U.S. are similar in our demographics. Let’s start by comparing the median age of our respective populations. At the median age, half of the population is older and the other half is younger. Notice the current similarity. Now for the real clincher. Here is a comparison of China’s Total Fertility Rate (TFR) with that of the US. TFR is the number of children the average female with give birth to in her lifetime. It takes a TFR of 2.1 on average just to break even, to have Zero Population Growth—1 to replace the woman, 1 to replace the man and .1 for those who cannot or will not reproduce. Note that China went below 2.1 in 1990, while the US went below replacement level in 1970 (probably to correspond with abortion being legalized in 1973.) So America has been below replacement level since that time, which explains the aging of our population.
Bottom line, while China is rightly concerned about the demographic winter coming their way, the United States with exactly the same problems, isn’t even talking about it. We should be! One of the saddest stories is of the proverbial frog in the kettle that is gradually heating up. “Ah, how comfortable this is!” says Mr. Frog as the temperature slowly rises. But before long, he gets very sleepy and, as you know, is unable to jump out before it’s too late. He ends up being boiled to death.
Crises that grow gradually are certainly difficult to discern. Tragically, if the trend we are on has us moving in a dangerous direction, we can end up facing a dead end from which there is no safe escape. Few Americans are aware of a major trend that has been building for decades that will soon present us with very severe consequences: the gradual aging of our population caused largely by historically low birthrates. The average (more correctly the median) age of Americans in 2020 was 38.2 years. This value varies from state to state, with Maine having the oldest median value of 45.1 years and Utah (with their many Mormons having babies) coming in with the lowest median age at 31.2 years. By contrast, the overall median age of Americans in 1900 was 22.9 years; in 1950 it grew to 30.19. As trends continue, the U.S. Census Bureau predicts that, within 14 years, the elderly folks in America over the age of 65 will, for the first time in our nation’s history, outnumber those children under the age of 18. This will present a huge economic dilemma of paying for Social Security and Medicare for the elderly. The pressure to ask elderly to do everyone a favor by taking the “red poison pill” and getting out of the way will continue to grow. But what has caused this gradual but significant shift in the aging of our population? Yes, part of it is due to the fact that folks are dying at older ages than before. But, more importantly, the reason for this shift is the huge decline in birthrates in America. A recent Wall Street Journal Article was entitled, “Births in U.S. Drop to Levels Not Seen Since 1979.” While the decline in births has been somewhat gradual, allow me to provide a stark contrast with how things were in the past vs. how they are today. The average woman in her lifetime in 1800 gave birth to 7 children. The average woman in 2020 will, in her lifetime, give birth to only 1.64 children! This number 1.64 is significant in more ways than merely to compare it to women in 1800. What you may not know is that it takes 2.1 children per woman just to break even in population growth: one child to replace the woman; one to replace the man; and .1 to cover for women who cannot or will not give birth at all. This number of how many children the average woman will give birth in her lifetime in a nation is called that nation’s “Total Fertility Rate” (TFR). America’s TFR has been below replacement level (2.1 children/woman) since 1971! (The only exception was a very brief period of time in 2008 when it was slightly over 2.1.) But why are women today having smaller families? Because kids are a lot of work, take a huge amount of our time, money and energy. So we aim for the “millionaire’s family”: two kids. Or to have no kids at all, to be “kid-free!” I cannot judge non-believers. But allow me to speak to Christ-followers who are parents. Life is short: 70 years equals less than 22,000 days, less than a million hours. You cannot take your retirement home, nor your bank account, nor your new car, nor your great career to heaven. But children are created in the image of God and have the potential to impact life on this planet and then live forever in His eternal Kingdom along with us. Or to put it a different way: children are messages we send to a time and a place we ourselves can never go. They are “Missionaries to the Future.” Yes, children are expensive and a lot of work to bear and raise. But where in the Bible does it say that life is supposed to be all about me and my comfort? The Lord spelled it out quite differently: “Then he said to them all: ‘Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross daily and follow me. For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will save it.’” (Luke 9:23-24) Yes, this issue is a scary subject. And we don’t like to be different and weird. But shouldn’t Jesus be the Lord of EVERY area of our lives? How about this area of our family size? Why aren’t we as Christ-followers praying and talking more about this? Time to repent and give God everything! For more on this very important issue, see our book: Sweeter by the Dozen: Making Jesus the Lord of Our Family Size. |
Randy HekmanHe is the executive director of The Grand Awakening. Archives
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